10 signs you’re married to an Asian woman

Intercultural marriages are a real eye-opener. It takes longer to find common ground, your comfort foods are not the same and you both have weird cultural habits. The first time I served my husband halva puri with mango pickle for breakfast and he didn’t like it, I was horrified. Who doesn’t like halva puri? It’s the breakfast of kings! Likewise he can’t understand why I don’t like smothering all my food in lemon juice and accompanying all my meals with a chunk of feta.

The best thing is to find a middle road and muddle along it. But a helping hand is always appreciated. First, a disclaimer. The Asian I refer to means South Asian – Pakistani, Indian, Bangladeshi, Sri Lankan etc. I know some parts of the world use the term for other nationalities.

Here are 10 things you need to know about your Asian wife:

1) The black stuff

Asian women love this look:

Smokey eyes

As a result,you’ll find this everywhere, all over all your bathroom surfaces.

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What is it? That’s kohl powder, and it’s the one beauty product your Asian wife would take with her on a desert island.

2) Hair oil

Women all over the world went ballistic when various beauty companies released this rubbish:

Don’t make me laugh.

That’s hair oil, and we’re not impressed. Your wife’s hair oil collection probably looks more like this:

That’ll contain olive oil, almond oil, coconut oil, argan oil, various types of brand oils like Vatika and Dabur and whatever else she felt like concocting. Each oil has a separate function. When she’d mad at you she’ll use this:

I’m mad at you so I created a chemical barrier between us.

3) Nice kitchen bro, did you budget for tin foil?

Spent a bomb on a lovely new kitchen? Great! Once your Asian wife gets her hands on it, she’ll turn it from this:

How do you keep that clean?

Into this:

You’re welcome, beta.

*I set this up to take this picture, though I did used to do this until my husband won out and stopped me. I’m going to leave it looking like this until my husband comes home just to see his look of shock and horror.

4) Fancy toiletries

Watching your wife mix and create lotions and potions from sandalwood powder, white clay, rosewater, tumeric and chickpea flower (really!) you’d think we all come born with degrees in chemistry. Why do you think so many of us are pharmacists.

Kiss goodbye to this:


Say hello to this:

Radiant towels, radiant sink, radiant bath tub. Radiant EVERYTHING!

5) Copper pans and fancy cookware? Forget it.

Do you own a set of these?

Oh la la!

Your Asian wife will probably promptly replace them with these:

Balle balle!

6) Spice collection

When I first moved in with my husband, his spice collection could be counted on one hand. This was still impressive for the average Greek household that cooks with salt, pepper and oregano.

Now our spice collection looks like this:


Even I was a bit surprised when I saw it all together like this. Your Asian wife doesn’t have a spice rack. She has a spice cupboard.

7) Rice wars

The first thing your Asian wife will do when she moves in is throw out any rice that isn’t basmati. There is no other rice in the world except for basmati. Don’t fight it.

8) Cooking for non-natives

What to her is this:

“It’s just a little spicy!”

To you is this:


The slow destruction of taste buds with atomic levels of spice is something that takes years to master. You’ll get used to it over time.

9) The body beautiful

You didn’t think your Asian wife just fell out of the sky with that baby soft skin, did you? Body hair removal is a constant process in the Asian woman’s life, one that takes up hours of time and conversation. Finding the perfect wax sends her into fits of excitement. No matter how much we try, we’re rarely on top of it. To fight this battle, your wife’s wax collection looks like this:

10) Time for a cup of tea

Your Asian wife can cure nearly any trouble with a cup of tea. This will go:

In it’s place will come this:

Tip: if she’s mad at you, make her a cup of tea. She’ll get over it faster.

Overall, marrying someone outside your culture is a steep learning curve. Tackle it with a sense of humour.


  1. I was about to send you a virtual high five at the sight of the Quattro Stagioni jars – aren’t they great? – but then I saw your remark on rice.
    How can you use basmati to make a risotto? A good, proper Risotto alla Milanese with saffron and porcini mushroom, or a Piedmontese risotto with toma cheese and porcini? Or, well, any rice recipe with porcini? You need a different type of rice for it, basmati ain’t gonna cut it!

    • You’re right there, but don’t think I haven’t tried making risotto with basmati. It didn’t work. This is the glorious part of intercultural marriages. My husband taught me what all the other types of rice can be used for. Basmati is still king in our house, though!
      ps: Quattro Stagioi jars are the best. I have a whole cupboard of them.

  2. I think when you say ‘Asian’, what you really mean is ‘South Asian’. Rice is an important part of most Asian cultures, but they don’t all eat basmati. I am South Asian origin and I have three types of rice in my cupboard: basmati, jasmine and Japanese. Don’t think basmati would be very good for my onigiri rice balls!

  3. Despite the hitches, I think intercultural marriage is always a new experience. Although the spice part may make me want to avoid asian ladies. Nice piece though

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